Make Both To-Do AND To-Don’t Holiday Lists

Last week I asked my insiders the question that was on my mind for myself: it’s all well and good to write a to-do list for the holidays, but what about writing a to-don’t list? 

This season is rampant with expectations, largely put on ourselves by our own weird ideas of what it means to be festive, responsible, and on top of things. Even if we wave the banner of Keeping Things Simple, we can still inwardly wrestle with a sort of low-grade guilt that tries to tell us by not doing certain things, we’re being un-festive, or irresponsible, or super not on top of things.

I decided to write out, side-by-side, both a holiday to-do list and a holiday to-don’t list. In writing out what I’m intentionally not doing, it makes it more official, and it reminds me that it’s not that I’m just dropping the ball on those things… I’m deliberately choosing not to do them.

None of the things on my to-don’t list are bad. In fact, they’re there because they’re good; I wouldn’t need to write down “don’t steal my neighbors Christmas lights a la the Grinch” because I already know that’s not a good idea, nor is it efficient.

So, below are my two lists, and if you’re an insider, you’ll see this has already changed a wee bit. That’s the beauty of writing these lists — you’re the boss. If something needs to move from your to-do to your to-don’t list, you’ve got all the permission in the world. You’re the one in charge here.

My To-Do List:

  • more baking than last year — we barely did any, and I really missed it
  • slow decorating — no need to get it all up and done at once
  • more evening walks
  • It’s a Wonderful Life live radio performance with my parents
  • holiday film checklist for family movie night
  • cookie swap with friends
  • paper snowflakes
  • new jammies on the first day of Advent — a longstanding tradition in our clan
  • evening Advent reading + candle lighting when we can (and no sweat when we can’t)

My To-Don’t List:

  • homemade contributions to the school holiday party — I brought plates and cups 💪
  • Handel’s Messiah with friends — it’s lovely, but I don’t feel the need to see it annually
  • a real tree — we switched to artificial last year, which was weird but good
  • elaborate teacher gifts — coffee gift cards all the way
  • extended family gifts — even if they give us a gift
  • wearing a tacky sweater to a party for a contest — I just can’t be bothered
  • hosting any sort of gathering in our home — this year, I’d rather attend than host anything
  • gingerbread houses
  • sending cards …and this is a hard decision for me. I love sending and receiving cards, but this year the holidays have simply snuck up on me, it feels, so I don’t know when I’d have the time to get my act together. Oh well. (maybe for New Year’s?)

After I posted these lists last week, quite a few insiders posted their lists as well, and it was weirdly fun to read other peoples’ ideas of what makes the cut and what doesn’t. So if you’re up to it, make your own lists as well, and feel free to share them. It’s oddly liberating!

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